Being rejected is never easy, whatever the circumstances are. There are things that you can do to help to change your focus, lift your mood and recovery.
my ‘band’ and myself need to make a demo in our music and were wondering ways to get them observed by music labels..
are we able to send a cope from the demo right to the background music label or what???
any help could be great..please and thanks!
i believe you’re misunderstanding..we’ve lyrics which we’ve written and therefore are creating a demo of this..you want to get OUR music available..
he’s14 and it is very difficult to cope with and that he might b put in a mental hostpital
We adopted 2 kids simultaneously: a couple y.o girl along with a 1 y.o boy from an African orphanage two several weeks ago.
The boy doesn’t make eye-to-eye contact beside me and does not enjoy being held and wriggles out or hits me and cries after i put him on my small lap or touch him or attempt to hold him. He rejects physical touch and just wants me as he is hungry for food or bottle or includes a soiled diaper that i can change and throughout individuals occasions will not make any eye-to-eye contact and doesn’t smile or babble.
However he likes my hubby just a little better and that he will let my hubby hold him and that he will appear at him as well as smile sometimes.
I am his primary health professional and I am with him the majority of the day being careful of him therefore it is very worrisome he doesn’t have attachment in my experience. For your reason I am not affixing to him too well either and often it seems like I am babysitting another woman’s baby and that i can’t watch for his Real Mother to return and lastly pick him up.
Our daughter likes me and likes to take place and play games and provide her best smiles to the two of us. However in public areas (supermarkets, doctor’s office, kids birthday parties, play-dates) she’s terrible outbursts when she screams, falls on the floor, kicks and will take off her clothes completely out of the blue under no circumstances. She also known as my biological son’s teacher “Momma” and did not wish to forget about her and visit me when she selected her up a on my small son’s kindergarten graduation day. It then a complete collapse and draining her clothes and messing herself. Which was pretty embarrassing and needed to leave earlier.
Have you got any suggestions to deal with individuals actions within our adopted boy and daughter? I am especially worried and worried about my attachment towards the son and when we have ever may have any type of bond. I even thought getting in touch with my agency for your reason.
I personally don’t like my existence. I truly do. I am 3 decades old virgin guy. Working 2 shitty jobs. I needed to quit my college to consider proper care of my seniors parents. I am not really a attractive guy, I have been known as ugly, The lady I really like declined me reason for my looks, well..she isn’t the first someone to reject me..I figured of getting cosmetic surgery to repair what God destroyed, however i cant cause I am having to pay for that house payment, bills, food, my parents health care…I am so depressed, I seem like carrying out suicide..however i know im a fuckin’ cowered ..I do not have nobody to speak to, with no body want that helped me to..my buddies are phony, they simply worry about themselves… I seem like im going to explode
p.s ..please I do not wanna hear that somebody will like me for who I’am , or I ought to be lucky cause you will find hunger , and unhealthy ppl all over the world..trigger I heared that alot..
I’m 17 years old and I have felt myself changing a lot lately. Of course I’ve gone through many changes lately. Over a year ago my mom and dad split up. My dad moved out of the house. I do not speak to him at all. He hit my mom and he was never around for years anyways (he drove a truck for a long time and then he started a taxiing business and he was never around then either). I wasn’t sad then. I mean, it was like nothing changed. But I’ve realized more and more that I’m a lot like him, which I absolutely hate. About a month after that, I became friends with Lauren. She is pretty, smart, and absolutely hilarious. As well as being gay. We were friends and I established that I was straight. Then after a time of her talking to this girl from England a lot, I realized I was jealous. I then realized that I had a crush on her. When I was about 12 I went through this time when I thought that I liked girls and I was sad for the longest time. I did crazy things like scrubbing my body until my skin bled to ‘wash away’ the gay. Eventually, I buried it down. Needless to say, I’d still never dated a guy, albeit making up guy crushes to satisfy my friends who were girls. So when I realized I liked Lauren all those feelings came back. Guilt, shame, and the feeling that I’ll never be the same as anyone else. I decided something after a while. I liked Lauren enough to put it all aside. I flirted with her. She flirted back. And on April 18th we started dating. I only ever ‘officially’ came out to my mom and one close girlfriend. My mom is religious and she hates the fact that I’m gay. That really stresses me out. I used to be so close with her and now I think she just puts up with me sometimes. Lauren and I have had a great relationship. But at school, I don’t feel the same. I’m not out rightly teased often, but none of the girls who used to talk to me do anymore. I feel like they assume that I am eye raping them or something. They don’t even make eye contact or smile back at me. I’m honestly not interested in any girl but Lauren.
Lately it’s been bad. I’m constantly either so happy or so sad. Introspective or outgoing. It’s one extreme or the other. And if I so much as assume that Lauren is interested in another girl (including simply talking to her female friend) I get insanely jealous and obsessed. I used to trust her completely and she hasn’t done anything to deserve me being so weird about it. I feel awful for her. I can’t stand that I do these things. I just feel crazy and out of my head. Like the real me is trapped someplace out of my body praying I’ll come back and rescue myself. I don’t know what’s wrong. But I’m always sad it seems. Maybe not extremely depressed, but never completely happy. I don’t feel like a member of society. Just some oddball that floats around and doesn’t participate. Or just the freaky lesbian. I know I’m more than that. I’m smart and nice, but I have not been showing anything like that lately. Just my weirdness and mood swings are all that anyone sees. What do I do? I have no idea where to turn.
I believe that my spouse will divorce me soon, and take our kids from me. She’s stated that they does not love me any longer, that I am not the guy she married, it’s not going to last, etc. She’s requested me to depart numerous occasions, and i believe it is something she would like, although she declines it afterwards. Whenever I request her to alter something, usually her inclination responsible me on her problems rather than going for a larger view, she begins accusing me of cheating on her behalf (no evidence, it really appears that they might have) and attempts to just “match” me with a few contrary complaint, recycling exactly the same details again and again. You can’t really discuss anything without them devolving into this kind of confrontation.
I designed a serious suicide manage a couple of years back, and that i realize that she’s been keeping a dossier of my eccentricities (non-violent, aside from punching walls after asking her to depart me alone, again and again, throughout a disagreement, about four to five total). She’s switched my very own parents (who’re not so loyal, anyway) against me and she or he lately visited these to talk about some kind of assistance “if” we obtain divorced. My mother props up divorce already, which my spouse explained herself. I’m identified bipolar, amongst other things, that we am positive she’ll use against me inside a custody of the children proceeding, together with the suicide attempt.
I’ve no clue why I carry on home, and that is been much less frequent with time, with lots of nights spent out through the night carrying out work on my small computer or getting one or two drinks, etc, nothing beats cheating, which may easily be more thrilling. A couple of several weeks ago, we’d this type of horrible argument which i really think I lost something, like a part of my soul died. Since that time, the overnight exploring and anxiety about going home have progressively elevated, which obviously she’s used as fodder on her accusations of infidelity. I do not think a lot of women would want to consider me at this time, within this state of mind.
Now, my application web hosting medical health insurance was refused because of pre-existing bpd, which for whatever reason helped me disheartenment. It can be since the health insurance provider is much like the authorities, who’ll take a look at my mental health record (no hospitalizations, just meds and physician visits), and see that i’m not “qualified” to possess much connection with the kids. My spouse includes a inclination to brighten details, and often make sure they are up, so I saw her attempting to make it just a little worse than it truly is. But despite the disorder in the current condition, I am in pretty bad shape, although I actually do work and offer the family.
Because the insurance denial, I’ve been considering suicide on the near-obsessive basis, triggered by all of the problems within my existence, the chance that I won’t have anywhere near equal custody of the children (or ruin my career looking to get it, that is inside a sensitive public position), my wife’s laying and traitorous behavior, etc. I informed her a couple of days ago that I believed of suicide, that she responded “Oh, threatening that again?” in ways so dismissive it really bothered me. I would like change, from her, however i can’t have it. It will need separating from her. I wish to feel stable within my home, but that could mean losing my children. I personally don’t like my existence and would like to finish it now. At this time. But I wish to explore the choices more first, given how extreme the remedy could be and also the harm it might cause my children.
I am not necessarily searching for anything feel-good or inspirational, just any suggestions that individuals have for things will be able to really do in order to not review the advantage.
FYI, my spouse is definitely an atheist, so the concept that chapel will fix this (that we doubt) is void anyway. I understand the hopes, however i require more than ritual at this time.
Right, I am a twenty-five year some guy as well as for as lengthy when i remember have experienced from low emotions and anxiety every single day. I did previously have the ability to acquire some pleasure and also have a couple of hopeful ideas (very little though), however I simply appear to achieve the lack of ability to be happy. This most likely stems away from my childhood by which coping with my step mother demonstrated difficult (my mother died too) as well as experienced bullying in school. But with time other issues developed which certainly didn’t help things- I’ve been identified with social panic attacks, ibs and rhinitis (related to nasal congestion). Personally i think fatigued constantly and awaken feeling terrible like I’ve not rested. My concentration is poor, are only able to appear to pay attention to simple tasks. I’ve sharp discomfort within my shoulders sometimes. I experience isolation a great deal, even just in crowded places. Essentially all areas of my existence appears to become affected! The worst I believe being my sex life- I’ve no confidence with females. And despite getting lots of looks as well as for the majority of my existence being told I’ve everything opting for me and am handsome, I still think I’m a bit of garbage, and ladies would certainly reject me for say as being a nice guy or something like that. I am not vain and that i admit I’m attractive, however i am just messed up in lots of ways and seem like an entire weirdo constantly! I’m a lost soul and would like to find something!
I want help, fast. I seem like i am so old and shortly it will likely be past too far. For that social anxiety, I’ve had cognitive behavioral therapy which did not help really- it appears that for me personally altering my constant negative ideas is near impossible! What must i do now, any ideas men!? Maybe I ought to visit a physician, but wouldn’t wish to go lower the anti depressant route as previously a particular drug screwed me up.
I just read somewhere within the Bible that there won’t be any tears which God will remove the tears of individuals in paradise. But, basically know my family members are burning in hell forever, how’s this possible. I’ll clearly know if they’re not in paradise and will also be sad. I do not think there’s anywhere of supernatural assistance that will assist with this. How can you deal with this idea? Thanks!
@ Active – You pointed out when someone hasn’t heard the gospel then they’ll be judged on their own righteous living. But, additionally you pointed out that people should tell people concerning the gospel, beginning with this families. This almost appears detrimental in my experience. Should not we NOT tell anybody about this and permit them to be judged on their own existence rather? This way they do not can reject it, right?
@ Alex- That’s a really nice thought! I really hope that’s the reality!
@ Red-colored – I really hope you are right! I simply keep listening to it everywhere and individuals will always be stating that others will burn in hell, I can not help considering it.
@ Richard – How’s that possible? I just read that there won’t be any sadness there, however i will clearly determine if my loved ones people aren’t there. And when they are not there, i quickly know where they’d be. Wouldso would that does not cause me to feel sad…or else you, for your matter?
@ Active – Ah, thanks. Which makes sense. I keep concentrating on the afterlife portion moreso compared to existence portion, becasue it is a lot longer. But, yeah, i call at your point. Thanks!
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